Is it just me? I've been noticing recently that I tend to keep relationships at arm's length. Do you know what I mean? Conversations are kept at a chit-chat level. It seems like there's this wall of unspoken pain dividing me from the people I talk to. You know the tension you sense sometimes when you ask someone how they are? They give a noncommittal non-answer and you know that all is not well, but feel that they really don't want you to dig any deeper. They're keeping you at arm's length.
Why? Why do we do this to ourselves and each other? Or is it just me? I don't think it's healthy and I don't think it's what anyone really wants. I think maybe there's a connection between getting so busy with the stuff of life that we lose touch with the people of life.
Do we think that others won't understand if we tell them what's going on in our heads? Are we afraid of admitting that our lives aren't perfect? Are we afraid of burdening others? Ironically, I find myself whinging about trivial things, while the big challenges of life remain an unspoken burden.
I don't have answers today, just lots of questions. Is it just me?
About Me
- skimbly
- I'm a wife and Mummy to four, trying to keep my eyes on the road ahead to God's Kingdom. Why Joyful Mornings? Because one of my favourite scriptures is "weeping may last through the night, but joy comes in the morning" PSALM 30:5 This country and this world are in the midst of a black and terrible night, and I am looking forward to the joy in the morning when Christ returns. In the meantime, this family is getting on with life and trying to seize every opportunity to be trained up as future members of God's Kingdom. "...Amen. Even so, come, Lord Jesus!" REVELATION 21:20
1 comment:
No, it isn't just you, but I think you knew that. :)
There are often times when I know I don't want to speak of something particular because I'm still coming to terms with what the situation really is. I need to examine my emotions, my motives, etc. Yes, we can present facts, or rather, the facts that have happened to us ... but we still can colour that with what we think we saw/heard.
There's also the element of trust; a sacrificing of yourself and knowing that whosoever you share the information or burden with can support you in a righteous manner.
Lots of things can hold us back from sharing inner hurts, but surely it must be done between the best of friends for edification and using proper fellowship to strengthen not only ourselves but others.
Well, a few of my thoughts too. :)
Lotsaluv, alecat.
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