Is it just me? I've been noticing recently that I tend to keep relationships at arm's length. Do you know what I mean? Conversations are kept at a chit-chat level. It seems like there's this wall of unspoken pain dividing me from the people I talk to. You know the tension you sense sometimes when you ask someone how they are? They give a noncommittal non-answer and you know that all is not well, but feel that they really don't want you to dig any deeper. They're keeping you at arm's length.
Why? Why do we do this to ourselves and each other? Or is it just me? I don't think it's healthy and I don't think it's what anyone really wants. I think maybe there's a connection between getting so busy with the stuff of life that we lose touch with the people of life.
Do we think that others won't understand if we tell them what's going on in our heads? Are we afraid of admitting that our lives aren't perfect? Are we afraid of burdening others? Ironically, I find myself whinging about trivial things, while the big challenges of life remain an unspoken burden.
I don't have answers today, just lots of questions. Is it just me?
Tuesday, June 2, 2009
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